Sex and the Seawolf: Choosing the right lube

You run into the other room. Your partner is waiting. Shuffling through your bathroom cabinets and looking through various bottles, containers and boxes, you are on a mission. All of the neck kisses and foot massages have led up to this: finding what makes the perfect personal lubricant.

Personal lubricant, or lube, is commonly used to make penetration easier and more pleasurable for both partners.

As most people know, lube works by allowing the male (or artificial) appendage to slip into the orifice with more ease. But something less commonly known is that the lube you use actually affects the condom you use, too.

Lubricants come in various types.

One type is water-based lube. This type of personal lubricant is easily absorbed by skin like water, which often causes it to dry out. However, one just needs to apply a dab of water, and — viola! — it is usable again. For those that like to get a little bit naughty, saliva also reactivates the lube.

An advantage to using water-based lube is that it does not affect the usage of latex condoms, which can be damaged by other types of lube.

The big setback with water-based lubricants, however, is that sex involving any kind of excess water will cause the lube to be unusable. This means water-based lube doesn’t work with pool sex, shower sex and hot tub sex.

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Astroglide and K-Y are popular brands that offer water-based lube.

One type of lube that shouldn’t be paired with latex condoms is oil-based, or petroleum, lube because it increases the chances of a condom breaking.

The oily nature of this lube makes it difficult to clean up, so it is mostly used by couples that don’t use condoms often. The nature of the lube is perfect to allow skin to slip and slide away into pleasurable fantasies. Be sure to get checked for sexually transmitted diseases and look into other forms of contraception before doing away with using condoms, however.

Vaseline is a well-known and common example of oil-based lube.

For those who want to get a little kinky and are curious about how the other end feels, there are lubricants that are anal-specific. This type of lube contains benzocaine, an anesthetic that numbs the anal passageway, which reduces irritation and pain during penetration.

Try not to get this lube in your mouth, though. It will numb up your tongue and lips, which is a very uncomfortable feeling.

With these options in mind, it’s time to go back to the bedroom. Try not to spill!