Hello everyone. Today I want to talk to you about interracial dating. Many of you out there- black and white – have asked me questions about this issue. Before we get started, though, let me say that I personally don't care who you date. Let's get that straight before you start sending me hate mail or calling me a racist.
There has been something sticking in my craw about interracial dating for a long time though, and I have been praying about the way to breach this subject.
You can't help whom you fall in love with. True love doesn't see color; it only sees the person that the love is directed toward. However, some of you have deliberately chosen to date outside the black race for reasons other than love. I have a problem with that, mentality: not the act of interracial dating, but your reasons for doing it.
I am talking about black men and white women. While I don't speak for all black women, I do speak for quite a few on campus. Black men offend us when they say that they date white women because it is easier. What does that mean exactly?
I've been told that dating white women means that black men don't have to put up with a woman always in their face, nagging them. They say we (black women) are never satisfied or are gold-diggers.
Some go so far to say that we don't know how to be supportive, but most of all, I hear that we have “too much mouth.”
First, I think that this idea is ignorant. Not only is it ignorant, but it does white women a disservice. To date someone for anything other than the fact that you honestly like them is wrong. It is a slap in the face to them and to us. You can find the same qualities in white women that black men list as irritating in black women.
I must admit, however, this stereotype of black women is true. For the most part, we don't take mess, we stand up for ourselves and we don't have a problem of telling men when they are wrong. We are supportive, even if it is not in the way you would like us to be.
Besides, to say that white women are easier to deal with only says that you have problems with being a real man. Let's face it, a real black women prepares you for what you will face on the outside. We are not willing to stand by and let you be less than you are capable of being. We only have your best interest at heart, and we know and understand the hardships you deal with as black men.
Most of all, we are not willing to let you disrespect us.
I want the black men who have thought or made the above statements to consider this: The qualities you hate so much in us are same qualities your own mother has. Do you hate her? Would you trade her in for a white one? I don't think so.
'Til next week, be safe.