Men don’t understand women. There are a lot more differences between men and women than just breasts, buttocks, childbearing hips, monthly tantrums (women blame it on “periods,” but I have a theory it’s just an excuse to throw regular fits over food messes and the toilet seat being left up), attire and giant footwear collections….
Category: V-Day issue 2012
Do aphrodisiacs actually work? For those of you who don’t know, an aphrodisiac is a food that is supposed to have one job and one job only: to increase sexual tension in a room. An au-natural Viagra. There’s some pretty fun ones tossed around: chocolate, figs, oysters, strawberries, almonds and bananas (tee hee). There’s some…
Love, in all of its unbridled passion, bonding and lovey-dovey mushiness, is a commitment. Several of UAA’s faculty can attest to how deep a commitment it truly is.
“Our marriage is a challenge,” said Andre Thorn, Director of the UAA Multicultural Center. “It’s a daily challenge that we both strive to make work.”
Thorn’s situation is different than most: He and his wife of 17 years live in separate states. Five months ago, the couple made the difficult decision for Thorn to move up to Alaska and assume his director position, while his wife Stephanie remained in Columbia, Mo. to complete her Bar tests. She will be there for the next six months.
Flowers, dinner, and a movie. These ingredients all concoct the traditional combination that is a typical date. But living in a state like Alaska, there are so many other ways to show someone how much you appreciate them. This is dubbed the Alaskan way to spend Valentine’s Day.
The only downside to spending Valentine’s Day the Alaskan way, is that it generally involves outdoor activities in the freezing cold. But with the weatherman predicting a heat wave through Anchorage (about 20-30 degrees) it is worth the shot to impress a loved one with a unique date.
Ice skating can be a fun experience, and if neither person can skate very well, it makes the experience even more fun. Falling on top of each other can bring laughter and good times. It also gives the opportunity to stay close together in order to balance each other out. An indoor ice skating rink can be just fine, but liven it up the Alaskan way with an outdoor ice skating rink on a popular lake like Cheney Lake or Westchester Lagoon.
Go old-style with a romantic horse-drawn sleigh ride through Alaska’s snowy back trails. Bring a big blanket that two people can easily fit under and snuggle up together. After an hour or so of tromping through the white wonderland, find a way back to either a cabin or cozy up next to a fire pit and warm up with some cocoa and marshmallows.
Take a drive up to the coastal trail and find one of the many parking spots that overlook the ocean. The biggest issue is that many others might have the same idea; so again, it might be a good idea to brave the cold and find a secluded area on the trail to hang out. Bring a picnic basket and keep it Alaskan with wild-berry salad, smoked salmon, sourdough bread, and apple cider. Watch the sun set or just watch the water under the glacial mass covering it.
Head up to Flattop, and don’t forget to bring along some snowshoes for extended walks. The trails are expansive and there are ample places to get away from the general public. Bring a thermos of hot coffee, tea or cocoa and after trek around the snowy trails for a while, take a break at a location with great views and share a drink together.
If both people like fishing, then ice fishing would be a great way to spend the day. Many lakes around Anchorage allow ice fishing. Rent some gear, dress warm, and go fishing, spending time with one another doing something both parties love. This is a great time for new relationships to play games like 20 questions, or old relationships to talk about life and the future. Afterwards, if fish were caught, cook them and share the fruits of labor for dinner.
Alaska has many opportunities to get outside year-round, but in the winter that can be difficult to do. So doing something new and exciting for Valentine’s Day will really add some fun into a relationship.
Roses are red, and they are blue, what do they mean, when given to you?
Dark Red Roses: Symbolically this color has always been portrayed as the deepest love possible. It holds the meaning of desire, passion, and commitment, conveying the idea of an everlasting love that can never be broken.
Red Roses: The traditional color symbolizing romance. Whether it is a single red rose, or a dozen red roses, the meaning is clear, that whoever gives them is truly in love with the person receiving them.
Pink Roses: Pink is the color that is appropriate for a newer relationship. It tells the receiver that the sender really adores them and the time spent together means something special.
White Roses: Normally associated with marriage, white roses take on the meaning of purity and innocence. It can also tell the receiver that the sender is honored to have a person like them in their life.
Purple Roses: This color is meant to represent enchantment and allure. This is why it is also said to be linked to the enthrallment of love at first sight, or continually falling in love over and over again with the same person.
Yellow Roses: These can mean friendship and happiness. Yellow roses are a great color to send to friends and family to show the joy that they bring into a sender’s life, and how they manage to brighten even their darkest days.
Orange Roses: Orange has been thought to be linked with desire. But it also shows a certain fascination that the sender has for the one they are giving the roses to. The message just depends on who is receiving them.
Blue Roses: Not a natural shade of rose, it conveys the meaning of mystery and fantasy. A great color from a secret admirer to a person they have long felt feelings towards.
Dating isn’t what it used to be. There was once a time when a gentleman could only be in the presence of a young lady if she was chaperoned by a relative; fast forward approximately 150 years, and couples go out on their own for days at a time if they can afford it.
Meeting new people has changed as well. Friends and couples meet in bars, at concerts, sporting events, in classes and even online. Online dating websites such as eHarmony and Match.com have become more popular over the past decade, and are capitalizing on this fact by targeting a wider range of personalities. But are partner-seeking college students jumping on the bandwagon?
As most of my friends know, my mind is usually always on…well, the pepperoni so to speak. In almost all conversations I find myself leading into more of the “gutter” while spewing forth a multitude of facts relating to sex, or more specifically, sexual health. I’ve come to realize over the years this may have stemmed from the fact that I didn’t receive any information regarding sex when I was young, causing me to overindulge in finding out everything I possibly could about the subject and my body in general.
My overactive appetite for information consequentially causes me to sometimes randomly divulge facts when the moment may or may not call for it.
One of my earliest memories regarding sex was when I was in the third grade. A fellow student of mine came up to me and asked in the typical nine-year-old taunting manner, “Do you know where all of your brothers and sisters came from?”
Since I grew up in an über-Christian family, the only thing I had ever been taught in relation to reproduction was that we were “gifts from God.”
“Well, from heaven of course,” I replied.
“No stupid, your parents just had lots of sex!”
While I now think back about it, and taking away my inner horror that a 10-year had such intense knowledge of where children came from, this event was the spark to my journey of sexual scholarship.
When I was 14 years old, my father decided it was probably time to have the big “talk.” This, however, turned into a conversation on the ride to soccer practice with my two older sisters and I sitting in the back of our 15-passenger van.
“Girls,” my dad said looking in the rearview mirror at us, “petting leads to pregnancy.” And with that, he gave himself a pat on the back, smug smile and all and we continued on our way.
Little did my father know that a year or so later I would actually divulge in sexual activities, or the fact that my older sisters already were, he nevertheless appeared content with the lack of information he actually was giving us. When my father found out that I was sexually active, instead of coming to terms with this news and finding a healthy, involved way to be a part of this change in my life, he reacted in a more or less negative way and labeled me as a “heathen” and a sinner.
While this may not happen to every child when they are growing through a milestone of an experience in their lives, it is another part of the reason I have become more active in educating not only myself, but those around me in taking care of themselves and in some cases, their little ones.
Although talking about sex has become slightly more mainstream what with reality shows like Jersey Shore and Teen Mom, which practically idolize it, the subject nevertheless is still “taboo” in regards to dinner table banter. I will be the first to admit that other than my own personal research I do not have any expertise in advice-giving but I still am of the opinion that regardless of one’s discomfort with talking about it, sex is something that needs to be discussed, especially to one’s children.
I cannot tell you when the appropriate age is to begin “the talk”, but I do suggest that earlier than later would be key—there are several pieces of literature available and in a range of which age groups they are directed at, although the best suggestion I can give is if you are uncomfortable doing the talk yourself, take your child to a professional who isn’t.
There isn’t any harm in admitting you can’t talk about it—it’s the next step you take that could be.