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Sex and the Seawolf: Lasting longer

Unequal stamina is an issue for some people during sex. This problem typically revolves around males in heterosexual relationships. The female orgasm is more difficult to trigger the average male’s, so many females tend to last far longer than their male partners, and it can seem like partners experience unequal amounts of pleasure.

This poses a problem for females who are trying to reach orgasm before or at the same time as their partner. Once a male reaches ejaculation, the penis becomes tender and rendered immobile for a relatively long refractory period — so if the male orgasms first, it’s difficult for him to reciprocally see his partner through to orgasm.

So how can a male gain extra minutes during sex?

The solutions are simple. Put your partner’s needs first, practice controlling your increased arousal and wear specialized condoms.

When putting your partner’s needs first, always ask yourself, “Will this benefit us both?” If the answer is yes, find a way to pleasure your partner without getting yourself ahead of the race. A male’s goal should be to bring her to the most sensual and gratifying state of mind.

Taking things slow during sex is a reliable route to achieve this state of mind. Foreplay is the most valuable weapon out there to gain time for males and speed time for females. Whisper sensual words. Tease your partner’s body. Sexual arousal is partly a psychological creation, so always remember to keep the female ahead in the race — because if only one person crosses the finish line, nobody wins.

While keeping her needs ahead of yours, you may find yourself wanting to dive into more passionate displays of penetration. The force must be used with the utmost control — for if not maintained, the force could just splatter all over the both of you.

One easy way to keep yourself in check is to focus on calm breathing as you plow forward. Do not maintain the same position for too long. Changing positions between you and your partner can also alleviate impending ejaculation. Going back to foreplay is always an option, too.

Another good option to increase stamina is wearing a desensitizing condom. These condoms are lubricated with enough numbing agents to allow the male appendage to become less affected by friction during intercourse The only problem with this option however is that you must find a happy medium to sustain an erection. Since the penis is numbed, male arousal becomes focused on the passion of the sex. Don’t worry though — the agents do not take away all of your senses.

Now that you know a couple of tricks to last longer in bed, try timing yourself. You may even find yourself rolling from one night to the next afternoon.

Written by Vicente Capala

My name is Vicente Capala. I am now a sophomore here at UAA under the Associate of the Arts degree. I am the multimedia editor at the Northern Light in charge of videos and slideshows for various stories and events. I love to take photos and am hoping to move to Canada or New York one day to study film!

1 Comments

  • Almost every man is born with premature ejaculation, so having it is perfectly normal to start with. Controlling ejaculation is something you have to learn just as you had to learn to control your bladder as a child. We get taught to control our bladders but no one teaches us how to control ejaculation.

    The American Academy of Family Physicians confirms that: Behavioral methods are helpful for more than 95 percent of men who have premature ejaculation. So, if you have tried exercises and they have not helped it is because they have not been explained properly to you. Many of the treatment programs offered online have not been written by professionals.

    Do not waste time or money on sprays, vitamins, herbs, dietary supplements or drugs. This is a learning problem and these things will not help you learn to control ejaculation any more than they can help you to learn to speak another language.

    There are a lot of high-priced programs advertised online but all you need is the information explained by a doctor and sex therapist that has been used successfully around the world for more than 32 years.

    It is called “Lasting Longer: The Treatment Program for Premature Ejaculation” by Dr. Sy Silverberg M.D., a recognized Canadian sex therapist.

    Visit the website for free tips on dealing with premature ejaculation.

    http://ezinearticles.com/?Premature-Ejaculation,-Solving-the-Problem—Part-1&id=6282045

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