Sex and the Seawolf: “My partner doesn’t satisfy me. Should I turn to porn?”

SNSPorn. The word strikes a thousand taboo thoughts for some. And for others, it gives couples or “buddies’ a blueprint of sensual acts. This type of media can even help independent stimulation.

According to Family Safe Media, there are about 28,258 Internet users that watch porn every second. According to an infographic published by www.onlinemba.com, 40 million US citizens watch porn daily.

Why do people go the movie theater? Movies satisfy the need for thrill and drama. Similarly, porn satisfies the sexual thirst for the unsatisfied.

There an online adage called Internet Rule #34: “If it exists, there is a porn of it — no exceptions.” This seems to be true. Family Safe Media suggests a new pornographic video is being shot in the United States every 39 minutes.

There are couples that like to use porn as a bonding experience. Others may see it differently.

But some individuals watch porn without their partners knowing. If someone is in a relationship and secretly watches porn, this may be because he or she isn’t satisfied enough and doesn’t want to hurt their partner’s ego.

So the question arises: Is it alright to watch porn without a significant other?

On the affirmative side, a variety of individuals believe it is their way of releasing built-up sexual frustration. This group tends to say that they can’t blame their partners for such frustration. Porn is one way for some people to discover their own bodies.

One beneficial thing I’ve found is that after figuring out what feels good after “instructional videos,” that information can be relayed back to a partner to give him or her better ideas for satisfying. In other words, give them some hints on your sweet spots and favorite positions.

On the other side arguing against the secrecy of watching porn, individuals mention that it feels like a separation is being built between the two. Orthodox Rabbi Shmuel Boteach said on Oprah Radio that porn is harmful to relationships and gave five reasons why:

“1) Porn is a drug that leads to addiction; 2) Porn is a form of sexism; 3) Porn portrays women in dehumanizing categories; 4) Porn makes men get bored with their own wives, and; 5) Porn cultivates a single standard of beauty that no real women can live up to.”

That being said, it is easy to see why porn is such a troublesome subject for some people.

Personally, I think if you are in a relationship, be open with your partner. Let them know what’s going on. By doing this, you may be able to open up a pathway where you both are able to fully explore one another’s bodies without the use of modern technology.

But if you are single, there’s not really much stopping you — except, maybe a virus.

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